Ashtyn had her first t-ball game yesterday at 8:30 in the morning-it was freezing! This is her first year playing, and she loves it! She plays on a boy/girl team, and they chose the name Wild Dolphins(you know, since Dolphins are probably the friendliest fish around; not too wild!). The game was hilarious to watch as most of the kids have no idea what to do. They'll either stand in the field and watch the ball right by their feet, pick up the ball and hold it while the runner thinks he made a home-run, or hit the ball and forget to run. The other scenario is all the kids will go after one ball and wrestle on the ground to see who comes up victorious with the ball. This is mostly what Ashtyn was doing. She is very competitive and good at most things she does. T-ball was no different. While most of the kids were standing there, Ashtyn would run her fastest after every ball, even if that meant getting there and grabbing it off the ground before her teammate could get it. It got to the point where I had to yell at her to let the other kids get the ball. I love Ashtyn's confidence and "go-get-um" attitude, but sometimes it is a little too much. We've always taught her to try her best at everything she does (and she truly is really good at several things and extremely well-rounded: school, ballet, sports, singing, arts, etc.), but I'm afraid this has turned her into thinking she has to be the best! We've tried to have many talks with her that it doesn't matter who's the best, who's the winner, who's the first, etc. as long as you're working hard and having fun. How can we calm down her competiveness and attitude of having to be the best? Is this a typical first-child thing? Is is good for her to want to excel at everything? Do I need to stop this before she gets older? Or am I just overreacting?
By the way, don't you love how the t-ball shirts are always way too big. It's so cute seeing all these little kids on the field in their huge t-shirts!
By the way, don't you love how the t-ball shirts are always way too big. It's so cute seeing all these little kids on the field in their huge t-shirts!
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I can't wait to see her and Cass hold hands
It's really sad when you have to get all your winter gear on just to play T-ball!:)
We were freezing at games too! Isn't t-ball season supposed to be warm? I do love a good game of t-ball. The kids are hilarious. I think it's great that she's competetive. My kids are content to let the ball come to them- then they MIGHT think about picking it up and throwing it. They definitely pick and choose what they want to be competetive in. As long as you aren't forcing it on her and she's having a good time, then it sounds like you're doing it right!
Kristine this is so cute. I love your blog. Why I was reading this about being the best I was thiking of Mason and I think we have done the same with our first kid we had him get big and do big things so fast and wanted him to be good at them that we pushed and pushed and now he does think he has to be the best at eerything. I don't think it is all bad because they push themselves, because they know they can do better but I do notice that Mason is harder on himself than others. I wish now I wouldn't have pushed him to be big so fast especially with the girls I don't want them to grow up. I think I am very lask with the girls to because I just am tired and don't have all the energy I did with him and I have matured to and realize who cares if they are the best they are just themselves. But I do see a huge difference between Randee & Mason in wanting to sucseed and not and I do wish Randee had more of a drive to do better like him so it is pretty much 6's at this point in the game ... to late to go back in time and to early to tell if we reuined him or the other two. Oh well they are healthy and happy and LOVED. Hope this article I wrote helps you somehow.
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